30 Tips on How to Give a Blowjob – Become an Oral Sex Sensation!

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Learning the map of a new partner’s body can be as frustrating as it is exciting, and oral sex can be especially tricky since everyone has their own preferences. 

 

Today, let's look at the men's side - blowjobs.

 

Whether your straight, gay, pan, bi, or undecided, here are some tips for both the giver and receiver...

 

 

OPEN YOUR MOUTH


 

First and foremost … communication will help improve any sex act.

 

Talking with your partner and discussing what they like and don’t like will help your BJ-game by leaps and bounds. It’s also the perfect time to talk about any issues or worries you have.

 

Whether you talk before, during, or after is your choice, but giving gentle feedback during the act is best.

 

 

CLEANLINESS FTW


 

Bathroom sink with faucet turned on, grey tile walls and grey mirrorNo one likes unpleasant smells, and partners certainly don’t like a man’s southern regions to smell like something between blue cheese and a gym bag.

 

Honestly, if you want others to enjoy the experience and put forth their best foot (or tongue) (1) give the entire area a good washing.

 

And not a quick splashing of water. We don’t expect it to smell like freshly baked peach cobbler, but we do expect good hygiene.

 

If there is still a taste you can’t handle (hey, no one should be judging you) (2) that’s what flavored condoms are for.

 

 

TRIM THE HEDGES


 

This one is a bit tricky. Some people are freaked out by completely waxed genital areas. However, it’s safe to say that a majority like it when (3) the southern regions are kept nice and trimmed.

 

Having to stop in the middle of it all so you can take out the floss-length pubic hair, can f-up our blow-job chi.

 

There's more than one way to manscape. Learn how here:

The Ultimate Hair Removal Guide

 

 

LAY A FOUNDATION FIRST


 

Yes, you could jump into the main event, but slowly building into it can stack up some serious sexual desire.

 

(4) Showering the groin area with kisses, soft licks, or other kinds of attention can be a total turn on, so when you actually start on the shaft, his nerve endings will already be on fire.

 

Just be aware...

 

Some people don’t like too much of this (tickling or loss of desire even). Unless you’re into some serious, consensual tease and denial games (which is also fun), pay attention to how much they're loving the pre-game.

 

 

THE PORN DILEMMA


 

Close up of woman with red lips sucking on a long, colorful lollipopA good 95% of the time, I would suggest staying away from porn for sex tips.

 

Just like looking at Photoshopped images for beauty standards, getting cues from porn stars is not a wise idea – both set fairly impossible standards.

 

It makes men think that they can just shove their trouser snakes into a woman’s ass and there will be zero muss, fuss, or pain. It makes women think that every woman is capable of deep throating without throwing up everything they've eaten in the last 48 hours.

 

Just like any film, it takes MANY takes and cuts before they have the look they want, and actors have trained their bodies to take it like a pro. It’s just not the case for regular people in a regular bedroom scene. 

 

What is porn good for?

 

(5) It can give inspiration (just keep expectations reasonable), and it can (6) add a visual aspect to play in the background while you’re giving a blowjob.

 

This is, of course, only if you’re comfortable and confident enough to have porn on in the same room. Personally, I wouldn't want it every time I make hanky-panky, but once in a while is a fun way to spice up things.

 

 

USE YOUR EYES


 

Woman blowing through bubble maker but colors coming out the other sideRumor has it that many men enjoy (7) eye contact during oral sex.

 

You’re not going to lock your gaze and have a creepy staring contest, but looking at them while you’re servicing the shaft is a huge helper.

 

Not only does it convey your lust and happiness at their pleasure, but you can (8) take cues from their expression and body language if things are working or not.

 

 

DON'T BE SILENT


 

(9) Peppering the act with some moans and groans of your own is another way to add a layer of “yes, god, please” to the evening.

 

Also, the (10) extra vibrations are very pleasant and add extra stimuli. Just don’t play them like a clarinet … it gets weird.

 

 

MAKE THINGS SLICK


 

Since we use our mouths, most probably think we wouldn’t need to (11) add lube in the mix. But, if you’ve ever switched to using your hand, you know how close things can get to accidental friction burn.

 

Plus, (12) adding flavored lube can make things tasty, especially if you’re not a fan of body musk.

 

Find out why  the right PH and osmolality are vital for lube:

The HUGE Sex Lube Guide

 

Just make sure you don’t have sex with flavored lube. The sugar content might (for women) land you with a yeast infection … ew.

 

 

DON'T DREAD DEEPTHROAT


 

As I mentioned before, porn has created an enormous amount of pressure for people to deliver the deep throat experience.

 

First, it’s not as easy as it looks. The gag reflex at the back of the throat is STRONG and not something that easy to overcome.

 

It has to be trained to recognize that the penis isn’t a foreign object that’s trying to kill you. If you’re willing to (13) give deep throat a try, there are "exercises" you can try that will help you calm the gag reflex in only a few weeks.

 

Check out this in-depth guide with plenty of details:

8 Tips on How to Deep Throat Like a Pro

 

Just remember, you don't have to if you really don't want to, and you can still have a great oral sex experience without it.

 

 

IT'S NOT JUST ABOUT THE PENIS


 

(14) Giving attention to several places makes for a far richer experience. Caressing their body or running your nails lightly down their legs or stomach can create some pleasant shivers.

 

 Also, if your dude is uncircumcised, you can (15) gently play with the foreskin.

 

 

KEEP AWAY THE LOCKJAW


 

Row of green, yellow, orange, and red lollipopsAnyone who’s gone down on their man knows the “trial of the sore jaw.”

 

You’re in the middle of something that’s making him wild and all you can think is, “If I keep going like this I’ll have to go to the hospital for muscle relaxants.”

 

Don’t worry, unless he says, “Keep going, I’m about to cum” you can (16) stop the sucking and use other methods of stimulation (hell, if you’re about to die from pain, you can still finish him off with other means).

 

And, men, if you say you’re about to explode, you better mean it, because if “just” ends up another 5 or 10 minutes, we’re going to stop listening to your cues.

 

 

USE YOUR HANDS


 

Close up of many people putting their hands upWhether your jaw is about to die or he's just too big, it’s totally okay to give yourself a hand.

 

(17) Stroking the shaft while you’re sucking often ends up better than using just your mouth. It’s also a good way to control the depth if he’s a “grab your head and thrust” sort of gent.

 

Give a nice firm grip to the base of the shaft, and voila, you have an instant “not-so-deep-donut” and the illusion of deep throat.

 

 

KNOW THE ANATOMY


 

We tend to think of just the shaft. However, if your man is uncut you can (as mentioned before) tease around the foreskin.

 

Close up of penis and a red triangle showing where the Frenulum isAlso, if you’ve seen a penis, you’ve already spotted the frenulum.

 

It’s the little piece of skin that attaches the head to the shaft. (18) Giving the frenulum a lick or a flick can be awesome.

 

(19) Don’t neglect the testicles either, they are filled with nerve endings as well. Take caution, because it can be ticklish or unpleasant for some guys.

 

 

USE LIPS, TONGUE, AND TEETH


 

Add more ammunition to your arsenal.

 

Lips and licking can be useful if you need a break and let your jaw recover. The teeth part can freak some dudes out, so ask if they are okay with it.

 

(20) Running your teeth along the skin should be done GENTLY.

 

 

SPITTERS AREN'T QUITTERS


 

Man in white t-shirt with hand over his mouth, looking suprisedSwallowing is another oral event that is totally up to you, ESPECIALLY since STIs can be involved, not to mention foul tasting is he's been eating the wrong things.

 

Even if men go through all the motions to make things tasty, some just can’t handle the feeling of cum (everyone has textures they can’t stand).

 

There’s nothing wrong (21) trying to swallow if you want, but if it’s just too much, finishing with the hand is better than blue balls.

 

Also, there’s nothing to say you can’t spit it into a cup, napkin, or towel etc.

 

 

ADD SOME EYE CANDY


 

Men love visuals. (22) Touching yourself while you suck him off, flaunting your other assets, or wearing something alluring are all great options if you want to add some other spice.

 

 

ADD SOME SENSORY DEPRIVATION


 

(23) Blindfold him. Taking away one of the senses will send the others into overdrive. Touch, smell, and sounds will be all the more intoxicating. Also, not knowing what to expect can be very thrilling.

 

 

GO HOT OR COLD


 

Glass cup of steaming black tea(24) Ice cubes in the mouth is an old trick.

 

Careful with putting ice directly on the skin in one place for too long (also, maybe extreme cold might be too much for your partner, while something on the cool side will work just fine). There’s always the option of getting your mouth chilly then taking out the ice cube.

 

Don’t neglect the opposite end of the scale.

 

(25) Drinking some hot tea before (don’t burn your mouth!) It might make him sizzle.

 

 

ADD A SPECIAL ENDING


 

WARNING: This is NOT for all men...

 

Just before he climaxes (and I mean JUST before), (26) give a VERY GENTLE tug on his testicles.

 

There are a fair number of nerve endings there. Just make sure you to tell him beforehand and promise you’re not going to milk him like a cow.

 

 

OPTIONAL FOREPLAY: RIMJOB


 

If you don't know what rimming is, read this article first.

 

If you do, most of you are probably scrunching your nose and screaming “EW!” After all, we see what comes out of it.

 

However...

 

This area isn’t as dirty as we think it as (unless someone utterly neglects it). It's just a matter of good hygiene.

 

Gentlemen, if your partner is going to (27) give a rim job first, CLEAN THE AREA WELL. You can even go as far as an anal douche or irrigation (if it helps your partner be comfortable with the idea). Some people suggest shaving, but that’s honestly up to you and your partner.

 

If you want to offer that kind of stimulation, but don't want to use your mouth, try an external vibrator or a vibrating buttplug to add into the mix.

 

You can find some app-controlled, Bluetooth sex toys here:

 Vibrating Butt Plugs, Prostate Massagers, and Magic Wands!

 

 

ALWAYS STAY SAFE


 

No one can deny that au-naturale feels the best. 

 

However...

 

Unless you and your partner have both been tested, (28) using a condom is a must. And the excuse of “I don’t like the feeling of condoms” should never fly.

 

My response would simply be, “You’ll like the feeling of NOT getting blow job even less.”

 

 

PRACTICE MAKES PUTTY


 

(29) Getting good at anything involves practice. No one is going to be a super-sucker right off the bat. Take your time, grow your confidence, and have fun!

 

 

DON'T WORRY


 

Close up of woman in sunglasses sucking on a bananaRELAX about the whole thing. I used to try so hard and focus on working as many aspects as I could, and, most of the time, the results were … okay.

 

I needed to (30) let go and enjoy the experience. Things finally click and he asked me, “What the hell did you do? That was amazing!”

 

It can be rather frustrating to get good at something and have no idea what you did. However, I tried the approach again, and it had the same result.

 

Instead of looking at it like a technical exam, live in the moment.

 

 

CLOSING THOUGHTS


 

Not all people are created equal. What works for one, might not work for another.

 

All you can do is experiment with different things. You'll find a combination that makes him convulse like he’s in an electric chair.

 

Also, I wouldn’t say it’s fair to heap all of the responsibility on one partner to make oral sex an earth-shattering experience – there are things both men and women need to contribute.

 

Don’t be afraid to try new things, but also, don’t feel like you have to do something you hate just to please your partner.

 

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Have any blowjob advice you want to add? Share in the comments!

 

Have a "sucky" day!

Robyn

 

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Comments (4)

  1. Medoichre says:

    I don't have tentacles.

    1. Robyn to Medoichre says:

      BUAHAHAHAH! Oh, I can't PLAN spelling errors that awesome! Thanks for catching it (totally made me giggle).

    1. Jay to Robyn says:

      lol

  2. Tom says:

    If your going to give a blowjob, please do it with PASSION. I DO IT BECAUSE I CRAVE/LUST FOR DOING IT. Don't be afraid of it,it won't bite you. Your passion for him in your mouth will drive him absolutely crazy, and reap you a pleasurable tasty reward.

    1. Steve c to Tom says:

      I would like to meet you tom.

  3. Kitten-pouch says:

    What is the best position for me to deep throat my man?

  4. Christopher says:

    I would like to meet Steve C AND Tom hahahaha

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