Sex Toys for Beginners: The Complete Guide to Getting Started

Can Sex Toys Improve My Health?

Source: A clinical pilot study found that regular vibrator use improved multiple aspects of women's sexual function.(Dubinskaya et al.. IntUroqynecol J. 2024.)

Beyond the obvious pleasure benefits, sex toys actually contribute to your overall wellbeing. (Evidence)

Think of toys as wellness tools that happen to feel incredible and not just about getting off.

Bundles for Couples Exploring Together

Perfect pairings for shared or solo control. Connect via app, sync patterns, explore rhythm and intensity together

Max 2 & Nora

Long-distance relationship sex toys

$190.00

$398.00

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Lush 4 & Hush 2

Wearable G-spot and butt plug vibrator set

$208.00

$418.00

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Domi 2 & Lush 4

G-spot and mini wand vibrator set

$214.00

$458.00

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Solo Pleasure: Toys for Vulva Owners

Let's talk about what actually works for beginners exploring vulva-focused pleasure.

Lush Mini

Mini wearable G-spot vibrator

$129.00

$259.00

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Ferri

Tragbarer Klitorisvibrator

$93.00

$199.00

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Nora

Dual-stimulation rabbit vibrator

$99.00

$199.00

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Klitorisvibratoren

If you're buying just one toy to start, make it a clitoral vibrator. Most vulva owners orgasm primarily through clitoral stimulation, and these toys deliver exactly that with zero learning curve.

What makes them perfect for beginners?

External-only stimulation means you can explore intensity and placement without any insertion. Hold it here, move it there, try lighter pressure or firmer contact.

The Ferri magnetic panty vibrator boasts a smart beginner design. Its compact shape fits comfortably against your clitoris, while the magnetic clip secures it to your underwear for hands-free pleasure. You control it via simple buttons or the Lovense Remote app.

Dildos for Beginners

Ready to explore internal stimulation? Dildos are perfect for penetration and sometimes even offer vibration.

Size matters, more than you think. A dildo between 4-6 inches in insertable length and about 1-1.25 inches in diameter works for most beginners. Remember, you’re not testing your limits, you’re training your body to enjoy penetration.

Material choice affects your experience:

Spinel is made from premium, body-safe silicone, giving you a safer and more comfortable experience compared to firmer materials like glass or steel.

Shape considerations: smooth and slightly curved beats aggressively textured or completely straight. A gentle curve naturally angles toward your G-spot, while a smooth surface prevents overwhelming sensation.

G-Spot Vibrators for Beginners

That signature curved design you see on G-spot vibrators? It's anatomically intentional. The curve targets the G-spot area on your vaginal front wall, about 2-3 inches inside.

For beginners, G-spot toys serve two purposes: they introduce internal vibration without complicated controls, and they help you locate an area you might not have explored manually.

The Lush Mini is perfect for any beginner. Its compact, 1.2-inch diameter is designed specifically for beginners, delivering comfortable, targeted stimulation without feeling overwhelming.

Use plenty of water-based lube and insert the toy slowly, curved end pointing up toward your belly button. Once positioned, try gentle rocking motions rather than thrusting. The G-spot responds to pressure and vibration more than rapid movement.

Rabbit Vibrators for Starters

Rabbit vibrators intimidated beginners for years with their dual-stimulation design and complicated controls. Modern versions fixed that problem.

Today's rabbits like the Nora combine internal and external pleasure in beginner-friendly formats: simpler controls, adjustable external arms, and less overwhelming designs that don't look like alien technology.

Why consider a rabbit as your first toy? If you already know you enjoy both clitoral and internal stimulation, rabbits deliver both simultaneously.

You're not juggling two separate toys or trying to coordinate different sensations.

Vibrierende Höschen

Vibrating panties (attachable clit vibrators) offer something different: wearable, hands-free pleasure you can enjoy throughout your day or during partnered activities.

For beginners, they remove performance pressure. There's no "technique" to master, no holding anything in place, no wondering if you're doing it right. Slip them on, turn them on, go about your business.

The Ferri works brilliantly as a wearable option. Its magnetic design clips securely to any underwear, transforming regular panties into vibrating ones without buying specialty garments. The compact motor delivers focused clitoral stimulation while staying completely invisible under clothing.

Start by wearing it at home during mundane activities, doing dishes, watching TV, reading. This normalizes the sensation before you venture into more adventurous scenarios.

Solo Pleasure: Toys for Penis Owners

Penis-focused pleasure devices evolved dramatically in recent years. What used to mean basic manual strokers now includes sophisticated options that remain beginner-accessible.

Male Masturbators for Beginners

Male masturbators range from simple sleeves to complex automatic devices. For beginners, focus on designs that enhance familiar sensations without overwhelming complexity.

Why start with strokers?

They amplify what you already know. You're not learning a completely new type of stimulation—you're experiencing better texture, adjustable tightness, and sensations impossible to achieve manually.

The Gush 2 reimagines the masturbator for first-timers. Instead of a closed sleeve, its flexible design wraps around your shaft with adjustable tightness.

You control exactly how much pressure feels good, making it perfect for beginners still learning their preferences.

Application tips: use way more lube than you think you need. The entire internal surface should be slick. Water-based formulas work with all materials and clean up easily.

Cock Rings: Enhancement Without Complexity

Cock rings confuse many beginners because they serve multiple purposes: maintaining erection firmness, delaying ejaculation, and even stimulating partners during sex for versions that vibrate.

Start with stretchy silicone rings rather than rigid metal ones. Silicone accommodates different sizes, removes easily, and costs less if you discover rings aren't your thing.

For solo use, cock rings like the Diamo teach you about pressure and sustained erection quality. During partnered sex, vibrating rings position a motor exactly where it stimulates a partner's clitoris during penetration.

Wear it for 15-20 minutes maximum when you're starting out. Extended use can cause discomfort or restrict blood flow more than intended.

Remove immediately if you experience numbness, pain, or color changes. Some discomfort during removal is normal as blood flow returns, but sharp pain isn't.

Prostate Massagers for Men

Prostate massagers introduce anal stimulation specifically designed for the male anatomy.

The prostate (sometimes called the "P-spot" or "male G-spot") sits about 2-3 inches inside the rectum toward the belly. Stimulating it produces intense, full-body orgasms that feel completely different from penile orgasms.

For curious beginners, dedicated prostate toys beat random objects or fingers as these toys were designed specifically for anal satisfaction.

Start smaller than seems necessary. A prostate toy like Edge 2, which is around 1 inch in diameter and 3-4 inches in insertable length, works for most first-timers. You can always upgrade to larger or more advanced options later.

Use significantly more lube than you think you need. Unlike vaginas, rectums (unfortunately) don't self-lubricate.

Anal Play for Everyone: Starting Safely

Anal exploration isn't gender-specific, and the same safety principles apply regardless of your anatomy.

Beginner Butt Plugs: Your First Step

Butt plugs introduce anal sensation through gradual, static fullness rather than active thrusting.

The taper-wear-remove design teaches your body to relax into anal stimulation without the coordination required for active penetration. Insert the tapered tip, let your body adjust to the widest point, then enjoy the sensation of fullness as the narrow neck keeps the plug comfortably in place.

The Hush 2 (1 inch) represents ideal beginner sizing and smart features.

At exactly 1 inch at its widest point with a smoothly tapered tip, it helps introduce anal play without intimidation. The long, flexible neck ensures comfortable wear, while the flared base prevents any possibility of full insertion.

Material matters enormously for anal toys. Silicone remains the gold standard: it's nonporous (unlike cheaper materials that harbor bacteria), warms to body temperature, and flexes for comfort during wear.

Never skip the lube, even if the plug seems small. Unlike vaginal tissue, anal tissue doesn't stretch or lubricate naturally. Friction equals discomfort or injury.

Anal Beads: Progressive Pleasure

Anal beads offer graduated exploration—each bead slightly larger than the last, letting you control exactly how much fullness you experience.

The sensation comes from insertion, wearing, and especially removal.

Slowly pulling beads out during orgasm intensifies climax because your sphincter naturally contracts rhythmically during climax, and the beads create additional stimulation with each contraction.

The Ridge is a perfect starting point. Start by inserting just one or two beads. There's no rule saying you must use the entire strand immediately. Work up to more beads over several sessions as your comfort level increases.

Read our proper anal play guide before your first attempt to prevent common mistakes and build confidence.

Beginner Bundles: Perfect Combinations for Enhanced Pleasure

Once you understand individual toy types, combining complementary toys creates experiences impossible with single devices. These bundles pair beginner-friendly options for specific goals.

For Men: Gush 2 & Hush 2 Bundle

Dual stimulation transforms how penis owners experience orgasm. The Gush 2 and Hush 2 bundle deliver both penile pleasure and prostate stimulation simultaneously.

Start with Gush 2 alone for several sessions, getting comfortable with its sensations and controls.

Then add Hush 2 once you're relaxed and aroused. The combination produces fuller, more intense orgasms than either toy achieves solo.

For Women: Lush Mini & Ferri Bundle

Internal and external stimulation together recreates the rabbit vibrator experience with more flexibility. The Lush Mini and Ferri combo targets both your G-spot and clitoris.

This bundle teaches you how different stimulation types interact.

Some people prefer alternating between toys, others want simultaneous sensation, and this setup accommodates both approaches.

You're learning your body's preferences without committing to a single fixed configuration.

For Couples: Lush Mini & Gush 2 Bundle

Partner play intimidates beginners who worry about technique or performance. The Lush Mini and Gush 2 combination removes that pressure.

For long-distance couples, these app-controlled toys maintain intimacy across any distance. One partner contro ls the other's device remotely, creating shared experiences despite physical separation.

Start by using your respective toys solo to understand their sensations. Then introduce them during partnered activities once you're both comfortable with individual operation.

For Advanced Beginners: Lush Mini & Hush 2 Bundle

Dual penetration sounds advanced, but this beginner-sized combination makes it accessible. The Lush Mini provides vaginal stimulation while the Hush 2 (1 inch) introduces anal play.

Master each toy individually before combining them. Spend several sessions with Lush Mini, then several with Hush 2, before attempting both together. Your body needs time to process each new sensation type separately.

Insert Hush 2 first (anal penetration works better before vaginal arousal increases pelvic floor tension), then add Lush Mini. Start vibrations low and increase gradually as arousal builds.（Build your own bundle）

Using Your First Toy: Practical Guidance

You've chosen a toy. Now what? Is it going to be like in the movies? We’ve broken down what your first time might be like.

Set the scene, but don't overthink it. You need privacy, time without interruption, and a comfortable space.

Lock the door if you live with others. Put your phone on DND. Put a towel down if you're trying something potentially messy.

That's it, you don't need candles, mood lighting, or a curated playlist.

Lube isn't optional. Water-based lubricant works with every toy material and cleans easily. Apply generously to both the toy and your body. "Too much" barely exists when it comes to lube.

Start with your toy off or on its lowest setting. Your goal right now is familiarization, not immediate orgasm.

Touch the toy to different areas, experiment with pressure and movement, learn what your body responds to. Rushing to the "main event" teaches you nothing about your preferences.

Give yourself permission to stop if something doesn't feel right.

First experiences don't always end in earth-shattering orgasms, and that's perfectly fine. You're learning, not performing.

Our Comprehensive vibrator guidance walks you through specific techniques for getting the most from your first toy.

Ready to experience it for yourself?

You're in good company—thousands of Lovense users have discovered a new world of sensation and connectivity with our intuitive app-controlled toys.

Care and Maintenance: Making Your Investment Last

Quality toys aren't cheap, and proper care extends their lifespan while keeping you safe.

Cleaning protocols: Wash silicone and ABS plastic with mild soap and water or toy cleaner. Avoid submerging charging ports. Clean your toy before and after each use.

Storage matters more than most beginners realize. Store each toy separately in a clean cloth bag or its original packaging. Keep them in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight to prevent silicone reacting with other silicone, dust accumulation, and battery drain.

Battery care for rechargeable toys: Charge fully before first use, don't let them die completely between uses, and charge them every few months even if unused.

Replace any toy that shows cracks, tears, discoloration, texture changes, mechanical failures, or strange smells. When in doubt, throw it out. Your health matters more than the cost of a replacement toy.

When You're Ready to Explore Further

You've mastered your beginner toy. You know what you like, how your body responds, and you're ready for something more adventurous.

Sex machines represent the next level, automated thrusting or vibration that gives your hands a break while delivering consistent, powerful stimulation. They're not for everyone, but once you're confident with manual toys, machines offer sensations you simply can't achieve through handheld devices.

The beauty of starting simple? You build knowledge that makes advanced toys more satisfying rather than overwhelming. You're not guessing what might feel good—you're expanding on what you already know works.

Your Pleasure Journey Starts Here

Every person currently enjoying an extensive toy collection started exactly where you are now: curious, maybe nervous, definitely unsure which option to choose first.

Here's what matters: the "right" toy is simply the one that makes you feel good. Not the most expensive, not the most advanced, not the one with the most five-star reviews. The one that matches your body, your experience level, and your specific interests.

Use it multiple times to really understand what it offers. Then, when you're ready, expand your collection based on actual experience rather than marketing promises.

Explore beginner-friendly toys designed specifically for first-timers, no intimidation, no judgment, just straightforward pleasure devices that work.

Your body deserves pleasure. You deserve to explore it safely, comfortably, and at your own pace. Welcome to your pleasure journey.