How We Learned Trust Was the Ultimate Form of Control

We’ve had our fair share of spats, money, life choices, jealousy. We’ve been able to overcome them by talking every day we can, being honest with each other, and mainly by trying to better ourselves on any bad habits we point out to each other. It is not easy. I live in Sweden and she lives in the US. Our physical meetings are so few it gets lonely, and Lovense helps us bridge that gap ever so slightly.

 

The first time was with the Domi I bought for her. Earlier I just gave her commands on what to do with her wand, but allowing me to control it like I was almost there in person elevated our D/s play to another level.I could slowly tease her as much as I wanted or overstimulate her over and over. It was great, and we kept buying toys to feel more connected to each other.

 

The first time she lost control from so far away stands out to me.Normally when we did commands prior to using Lovense toys she loved being a brat, not listening to me just so she could be punished harder later. But thanks to the fuck machine and me putting her in prone bond, she couldn’t just stop on her own when she felt that feeling sneaking up.I kept her in that place for almost forty minutes, taking her through wave after wave of intensity. Under her muffled breath in her now drenched teddy bear I heard her say, “Please, please daddy stop,” but this time I wouldn’t be as lenient as the times she controlled the pace. I slowly increased it from 50% to 60% to 70%. The intensity built until her control shattered, and she surrendered completely: a moment of vulnerability and trust we’d never before achieved from so far away.

 

She lay there trembling, whispering thank you over and over.

 

This play is only something we’ve been able to do in person, but thanks to the mini fuck machine we were able to do that long distance.

 

Moments like that taught me something important—

 

Number one and the most important: safewords. They’re so important in any type of play, but even more so in long distance, as you cannot as easily pick up on your partner’s discomfort. I’d recommend a green, yellow, red system.

Number two: having two cameras for your play — one on the body and one on the face. If you’re like me and you get off to your SO’s reactions, then it’s a must.

And lastly, never forget to clean your toys.

What began as a game of dominance turned into devotion. For them, control was never about power, but about trust - the kind that grows stronger, even across the pond.

💌 Behind the Story

aTiredOcto (25–34M) 📍 United States
💞 In a long-distance D/s relationship
🎮 Using: Ferri, Lush series, Gush series, Mini sex machine
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